The Mind Monocle

It can feel like the world is on our shoulders when we experience things “a little too deeply.”
When you feel like you’re drowning, how can you fight against the current? How can we stay grounded when there’s a tsunami of thoughts picking at our insecurities?

The world can seem like it’s against us, punishing us with swords of chance and calculated interactions.

The Tests and Turbulations

When life is sharp, jagged, and restricting your capacity to stand still, you may feel tested by the elements. The elements, the weather, and the passing ship can make finding a way back to yourself challenging to see or even prioritize.

How do we find our way back to ourselves when we feel like we are on trial, caught between what drives us and what grounds us?

Finding a balance is something we always hear, whether it be building, trying to manage or adjust boundaries between life and work, social and personal, and reflecting on both interpersonal and intrapersonal spheres. These conditions or flexible walls allow us space to breathe, but there’s something else to consider.

Beyond Building Boundaries

Building space for ourselves, our cores and experiences require space to live, to take up space, and not cower in the presence of duty, discomfort or control.

Considering you as someone important relates to self-love or empathy for yourself or others. But underneath that, self-definition means what you accept, and change encompasses your ground that requires space to live. It’s impossible to meet perfection, and hard not to be perfectionistic. Take time to see yourself, don’t dismiss your energy and forgive yourself when you falter.

It’s hard to always act in an idealized fashion. Shame, guilt and resurfacing memories can come up when you cannot be there for everyone or be what others need. It’s great to feel needed, but you find yourself whole when you are accepted just as you are.

Time, Energy & Space

Allowing yourself to protect your time, energy and space firms your ground and protects you when the elements attempt to shake or disturb your peace.

It can be challenging to pause before caring for another’s emotions or stepping into another’s world. Empaths, a shout-out, when in distress, consider this airplane direction. When there’s an emergency, “Wear your mask before helping a fellow passenger.”

The song below is by Vancouver Sleep Clinic, “Ayahuasca,” which draws out this concept of “zoning out,” whether it be focus or zen and allowing yourself to feel and move on in a connected way.

Love always,
R.A.F.